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  • team members holding hands

    The four stages of team development by Bruce Tuckman is a core management model most leaders are familiar with. Teams start by ‘Forming’ and then go through a series of stages that eventually see them arrive at ‘Performing’ – with the advantages of being self-motivated, autonomous and competent.

  • Toxic work place

    Leaders and managers often ask us to run training or coaching programmes to help them deal with difficult behaviour - it’s the most common request for training we get. It’s not surprising, difficult behaviour in the workplace is time consuming and frustrating. Even the most cohesive team may experience it.

  • Band Aid

    We work with many CEO’s passionate about what their organisation does, but less so about the time pressures that come with leadership roles. People have a habit of looking to the top for solutions, so it’s no surprise that many CEO’s discover that people and organisational issues are the real time suckers.

  • Perfectly laid out clothes

    Do you identify as a perfectionist - or know someone who believes it makes them or their team, more productive? The truth is - it’s often not the success enabler it’s thought to be. In fact it could be causing some pretty serious damage.

  • 2019 party balloons

    Don’t wait until the new year to make big plans for 2019. Every year millions of us make New Years Resolutions that few people ever achieve. If you want to be different from the crowd, get thinking now about what you want to achieve and make a plan with these top tips:

  • Man questioning employee

    It can be hard as a manager, leader or HR professional when people do behaviour that is troublesome or difficult to know how best to handle it. We usually suggest that you spend some time trying to ascertain what’s behind the behaviour before deciding, but this can be easier said than done...

  • man and woman embracing on a beach

    Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a collection of techniques that help people do more of their good ‘programmes’ and change their unhelpful ones. The techniques get your conscious and unconscious mind working together for you, making it much easier to make changes than by will power alone...

  • Happy dog on a swing

    It’s tough when you feel pulled in different directions, unable to spend time doing the things you want to. Being more balanced is a very personal thing because we are all different - to some people sitting on a beach is relaxing - to some it is the very definition of boredom!...

  • worried employer

    Anyone who’s anyone nowadays has a Coach. Working with a Coach can help you improve your performance, decrease your stress levels, revolutionaries your time management and sort out your work life balance. But what do you do if Coaching isn’t helping?...

  • employees standing together

    If you work in a warm and friendly team environment, the chances are you have a number of affiliation driven people in your team. Harvard Psychologist David McLelland defined three primary motives that drive people Power, Achievement and Affiliation which are the key to understanding behaviour in the workplace...

  • Young friends sitting together in the park

    It is all too easy for our social life and family time to end up as the ‘thing we do when everything else is done’. And yet if people were asked on their death bed, what they wished they’d done more of in their life - very few people would say ‘worked more and cleaned the house more’...

  • Old vintage photo collection

    Forgetting things is part of being human, it happens to us all sometimes. If you are revising or doing a talk or presentation and need to remember some essential things, or even if you just want to improve your memory skills, here are some fool proof ways to create memory pegs that will make memorising easier...

  • woman lying down

    Visualisation techniques are so popular nowadays that Coaches, Trainers, and Consultants use them freely without considering that they might not work for everyone. They are commonly used for setting goals, business and personal and in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) they are used extensively for anchoring techniques, phobia cure and for timeline work...

  • man getting upset about being criticised

    No-one enjoys being criticised or from negative and hurtful comments (or the fear of them) often prevent you from doing things you really want to. You might ask yourself ‘What if people don’t like my idea?’ or ‘What if I fail and everyone sees?’...

  • woman looks at herself in the mirror

    If you are not a naturally reflective person, it can be hard to even comprehend the point of it. You are probably a more action oriented, just get it done kind of person. Countless research, including the study we did for our first book Real Leaders for the World highlights the benefits of some reflection and that successful people use it well, to help them be even more successful...

  • Unhappy woman at her desk

    Many people strive for happiness, the self development world is packed with top tips to silence your demons and think positively. These are all well intended but also concerning, the preoccupation of obliterating any so called negative feelings doesn’t make you happy, it can just store up problems for later...

  • A split in the road

    All or nothing people are often very happy to tell you that, and there are many things all or nothing people do well. They can be highly committed and enthusiastic about things making them an inspiring and creative leader, employee or life partner...

  • Businessman exhausted on the floor

    Anyone can experience burnout. It creeps up on you slowly and the results can be devastating. Burnout is commonly linked to stress and overwork and is particularly common in professions where there is a lot of emotional caring involved like medical professions, coaching, psychotherapy, people that work in care homes, carers, leaders and managers...

  • Woman shouting at social media comments

    When the internet was born people were excited about it’s potential for sharing information easily, we were all going to be better informed and increase our knowledge. What was not predicted was the extent of misinformation, lies and errors there are on the web...

  • Relaxed woman drinking tea

    Did you know that other people are picking up information from you ALL the time? Even if you aren’t speaking or doing anything, you are still communicating. Many people don’t know the unconscious messages they are giving out, partly because you can’t watch yourself the whole time...

  • Head with cogs for a brain

    Critical thinking is the ability to think in a rigorous and disciplined way to make better judgements, decisions and create well thought through outcomes. In a world where people increasingly feel at the mercy of their feelings and emotions or worn down by other people forcing their opinions...

  • Man holding out an advice ticket

    When someone tells you about their problem or dilemma, it can be hard to resist the urge to jump in with suggestions and solutions. Human beings love solving other people’s problems, even though we are often less good at solving our own. It makes us feel wanted, needed, valuable and sometimes even a bit powerful.

  • Stressed out man with pen
  • man unsure about his abilities

    Imposter Syndrome describes high achieving people who are marked by their inability to internalise their accomplishments and a fear of being exposed as a fraud. They will dismiss their achievements as luck, timing or attribute them to other people. A recent study found that 70% of people experience Imposter Syndrome, which actually makes it a normal human condition. If this is you or someone in your team here are some ways to help people overcome this?

  • Woamn with no confidence sitting on the floor

    Confidence is both an inside feeling and an outside behaviour.
    Both are important, if one is out of kilter you will appear incongruent and inauthentic, therefore lacking impact.

  • Happy people dancing up the street

    There are many ways to be happy and successful, there is no magic formula. Instead happy and successful people live by some useful Principles and do them their own way...

  • woman looking at her watch

    It’s simple right? Follow some time management rules; make a list, work out what’s important and work your way through it. Not so simple. Even people who really focus on managing time well are being secretly sabotaged by their own brain. Why?...

  • Woman considers at desk

    The art of reframing is a management, leadership and coaching toolkit staple, but how effective is it? Reframing is the ability to show someone an alternative more useful perspective or ‘frame’ on a problem situation. It should be useful for that person, not just make you or them feel better...

  • Business people in yoga pose

    Employee Wellbeing is not a big shiny initiative you need to implement, the most effective way to develop a really healthy culture is to embed it at the heart of everything you do. This is actually much easier to do than you might think at first.

  • wasting time sitting in a bar

    Time sometimes really does seem to slip away? We lose time often not because we are busy doing something important, but because our mind is stuck in it’s naughty bad habits. If you can identify your habitual time wasters and change them even just a little bit, you will free up more thinking time, more energy and the ability to get a lot more done. Here are a few top time wasters and how to address them:

  • employees discuss strategy

    Is is that time of year again? Time to organise the team away day or strategy day. To be successful Strategy Days need to generate ideas, be done in an environment that stimulates freedom of thought and involve the right people. Without a clear plan and enough structure you cannot have a successful strategy day.

  • happy woman with read hair

    Negotiating is something we do on a daily basis - even if it’s who is stacking the dishwasher. It is a skill a lot of people find difficult and often intimidating though, particularly in the workplace where the stakes can be high. Improve your negotiating skills with these easy to implement strategies modelled from successful negotiators:

  • out of order sticker on human head

    It’s so frustrating, you know something is important but you constantly seem to end up doing something else. The reason for our distracting habits comes down to our habitual thinking habits which can sabotage us without us knowing. Here are 3 top time wasting habits and how to overcome them and free up your thinking space for those essential actives you want to do...

  • businesswomen at table

    Do you find it hard to say no? The problem many people have with saying no is that they don’t want to offend or upset people, or they are afraid it will damage the relationship in some way. Here are some top tips for saying no and being polite from Time Mastery; Banish Time Management Forever...

  • Wyatt Woodsmall

    On 31st October Wyatt Woodsmall ran an NLP Masterclass for over 30 of us in Bristol. The subject was Science and Spirituality and the path towards spirituality - and whether it’s a path we want to take. It was a packed day with many full heads at the end, but in it all were some practical life lessons that we could all take away and do something with. Here are some key ideas that help with day to day life and the path onwards:

  • woman saying no

    Do you find it hard to say no? The problem many people have with saying no is that they don’t want to offend or upset people, or they are afraid it will damage the relationship in some way. Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) explores how to use language in a way that sets clear boundaries and respects other people. Here are some top tips for saying no and staying friends:

  • karen meager

    Jan 8-10th 2016 – over 35 leaders in NLP from around the world gathered in Alicante. Karen and John were delighted to be part of a group of truly inspiration people who are dedicated to the growth, quality and ethics of Neuro Linguistic Programming across the world. People came from as far as Chile, USA and Australia -as well as all over Europe.

  • wyatt woodsmall

    Everyone at Monkey Puzzle is busy working on their personal and business goals for 2016, and it’s set to be an exciting one. Here’s just some of the things we are looking forward to in 2016:...

  • altercation

    Have you ever wondered how to end ‘blame game’ behaviour at work? Here are the top tips from the experts:

    Eleanor Shakiba; author of Difficult People Made Easy

    When blame game tactics are at play, you’re likely to find lots of ‘us and them’ style stories being told. Employees who tell these stories usually cast themselves as victims and maintain that their ‘difficult co-workers’ are persecutors. If managers or team leaders step into rescuer roles, the blame game will continue. So it’s important that managers and supervisors remain neutral and objective. One way to do this is by reframing the issue:

  • stress on the floor

    Tis the season to be merry - and also stressed if you are organising Christmas this year. At such a special time, you want to get it right, but many people race up to the big day and are then too exhausted or stress to enjoy it. There’s a reason why Christmas Eve is a peak day for people getting colds. Here are our top tips for making Christmas a breeze:

  • 2016 graphic

    Following on from December’s Blogs on Top Highlights for 2015,  here are what our industry leaders are looking forward to in 2016...

  • emotional buttons

    When you or someone around you flips out seriously, has a meltdown, lashes out, shouts and balls or bursts into tears suddenly how do you know what’s really going on – and how to deal with it calmly and compassionately?

  • little chef

     ‘What should I do with my life?’
    It’s the most common question people come to coaching and programmes with and given how socially conditioned most of us are, it’s not easy to really get to the core of what really excites us and drives us as a passion.

  • tug o war

    You are dying for some feet up time, but you can’t stop thinking about work. You really want that promotion, but just as you think it’s yours, you make a mistake that seems to put you back. You want to be close to someone in a good relationship but keep doing things that push them away. Is any of this familiar?

  • deep thought

     The words we use matter. When we speak or hear a word we make pictures and sounds in our minds, and that impacts how we feel and behave. So it’s important to be clear about what we are saying, to ourselves and others. In this series, John will explore the meaning and impact of common words we use and ask the question ‘Do we know what we’re saying?’

  • Karen NLP seminar

    Karen and John are involved with the NLP leadership community both in the UK and Internationally. At the recent International NLP Leadership summit it was discussed, at great length, how we can ensure that people being trained are being trained well. Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) has a patchy reputation and this is by and large because the difference between good and bad quality trainings varies drastically across the UK (and the world). The problem that potential students or even people with an idle curiosity have with searching for Trainers of NLP is that unless you’ve been in the field for ten years it’s hard to work out who’s good and who’s not.

  • angry boss at employees

    When Andy Cohen Wray begin learning NLP 18 months ago, none of us knew where it would take him. Working for Heathrow Airport at the time, Andy was a keen sportsman and had done some hurdling competitions, deep in the back of his mind though was an idea. Fascinated by the psychology of sports people, Andy had a dream to run his own business, coaching runners and professional athletes to get their minds in shape for their best performance in the sport they loved.

  • Andy Cohen Wray

    When Andy Cohen Wray begin learning NLP 18 months ago, none of us knew where it would take him. Working for Heathrow Airport at the time, Andy was a keen sportsman and had done some hurdling competitions, deep in the back of his mind though was an idea. Fascinated by the psychology of sports people, Andy had a dream to run his own business, coaching runners and professional athletes to get their minds in shape for their best performance in the sport they loved.

  • head in the sand

    1. The need to be Right

    The need to be right is a disaster when it comes to living a successful and happy life. People who are driven by this need will often pontificate about things that they can’t control, have opinions about other peoples lives and ‘how they are getting it all wrong’.

  • christmas stress

    Getting together with the family at Christmas should be full and fun and joy. In reality though the fun and joy rarely happens as spontaneously as it does on those Christmas TV ads. The secret to a successful Christmas with the family to think ahead and be prepared by considering who you’ve got coming with these three steps:

  • group meeting

    For many organisations, change is neither desirable nor simple. How can you help your people feel in control during times of transition? How can you minimise the ‘loss’ which often comes with change? What can you do to reduce conflict and build healthy teams, even when the rate of change keeps increasing? What behaviours help people thrive during change? Use these top tips from the experts:

  • NLP in the dictionary

    If the Wikipedia entry on NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is to be believed, it is all a bunch on mumbo jumbo. If that’s true, why then, have over 150,000 people in the UK been trained in it and report using it with success? Why do people like Pharrell Williams, Oprah Winfrey and Warren Buffet sing its praises? Why do a lot of counsellors and psychotherapists secretly use it without labelling it? Why is it so popular in the sports and business world?

  • critical thinking

    You’ve been told you need to think more ‘strategically’. But what does this really mean and can you do it?

    A strategy is simply a series of tasks, outputs or actions in the service of achieving a particular outcome. Not hard right? So how come so many of us struggle with it? If you want to improve your strategic thinking skills, here are the top tips from the experts:

  • deep thought

    The holidays are coming. A lot of travelling, particularly on flights is often seen a ‘dead’ time to pass and endure on your way to that well deserved R&R in the sun, instead why not use it to improve your mind and even your life…

  • help scored in the sand

    People often tell us they find asking other people for their time, help and support difficult. It can feel like grovelling, being demanding or disrespectful depending on how you think. This can often make requests appear clumsy and awkward. Being able to ask for help well builds relationships and is a key factor in managing your time well, as you can’t do everything yourself. Here are our top tips straight from our forthcoming book: 

  • woman ignoring other opinions

    It’s a frustrating situation. You’re sharing advice or giving instructions and the other person just isn’t listening. Why does this happen? How can you engage others, so they really want to listen? Here are the top tips from our panel:

  • stones balancing

    It’s tough when you feel pulled in different directions, unable to spend time doing the things you want to. Building a good work life balance is a very personal thing because we are all different - to some people sitting on a beach is relaxing - to some it is the very definition of boredom! Find a work life balance that works for you by following these top tips from Time Mastery; Banish Time Management Forever.

  • man looking at watch

    Time is a finite resource. We all have the same amount of time each day, each week and each month. How we use that time is dependent on what each of us believes is important and how we think about time.

  • Wyatt Woodsmall

    On 31st October Wyatt Woodsmall ran an NLP Masterclass for over 30 of us in Bristol. The subject was Science and Spirituality and the path towards spirituality - and whether it’s a path we want to take. It was a packed day with many full heads at the end, but in it all were some practical life lessons that we could all take away and do something with. Here are some key ideas that help with day to day life and the path onwards:

  • woman saying no to a friend

    Do you find it hard to say no? The problem many people have with saying no is that they don’t want to offend or upset people, or they are afraid it will damage the relationship in some way. Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) explores how to use language in a way that sets clear boundaries and respects other people. Here are some top tips for saying no and staying friends:

  • woman meditating

    Hypnosis has great health benefits and in a recent New Scientist feature is cited as being more effective than placebo when working with health issues. When you make it a part of your life it can be a great way to de-stress, allow you to relax as well as solve problems and create great ideas. Your body needs to relax, to unwind, clear the circuits and reboot and self hypnosis is a great way to do this.

  • glass of water

    The words we use matter. When we speak or hear a word we make pictures and sounds in our minds, and that impacts how we feel and behave. So it’s important to be clear about what we are saying, to ourselves and others. In this series, John will explore the meaning and impact of common words we use and ask the question ‘Do we know what we’re saying?’

  • NLP conference 2016

    Jan 8-10th 2016 – over 35 leaders in NLP from around the world gathered in Alicante. Karen and John were delighted to be part of a group of truly inspiration people who are dedicated to the growth, quality and ethics of Neuro Linguistic Programming across the world. People came from as far as Chile, USA and Australia -as well as all over Europe.

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