FAQs About NLP
How will learning NLP help me in my work?
There are a number of ways it can improve your performance and happiness at work:
- Learn how to deal with other people’s difficult behaviours elegantly and respectfully.
- Understand your and other people’s thinking styles and motivations in depth, which makes them easier to communicate with and it easier to get your point across.
- Learn models to help you with strategy, business planning and goal setting.
- Make easier, calmer decisions about work and your career.
- Improve your delegation, influencing and mentoring skills.
Is NLP the same as Hypnosis?
When NLP was originated, they studied the father of Hypnotherapy, Milton Erickson so his communication style, attitudes and language patterns are integrated into NLP. NLP is not hypnosis though, there are many other influences and hypnotic language patterns are just one element.
The key with learning NLP is to have choice over how you respond and interact with people, so this is one part of it. If you are interested specifically in hypnosis, take an NLP course which includes a hypnosis qualification or is run by someone trained in Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy as not all NLP Trainers specialise in this.
How do I find a good NLP Professional to work with?
Make sure they are qualified appropriately for the issue you want to work with them for. As a general rule here are some guidelines:
work performance, goal setting, changing minor habits, communication coaching, career planning.
NLP Master Practitioner
Complex habits like smoking and weight loss, relationship issues (not couples), low moods (not depression unless otherwise qualified), minor anxiety, complex negative thought patterns, working through major life changes like redundancy, retirement or divorce.
As with Master Practitioner plus they will have been trained in a coaching methodology.
Must be a member of NLPtCA (nlptca.com) or equivalent organisation to practice therapy. For more complex issues or longstanding issues, depression, anxiety, some eating disorders, relationship problems.
This is just a guide and some people have other qualifications that may make them appropriate for more complex issues; for example an NLP Practitioner who also has a non NLP counselling qualification. Make sure they are insured and are a member of an organisation which has a code of ethics and a complaints process. Find out more about choosing a Coach in our Free Guide.
The Wikipedia entry for NLP is not very flattering. Why is this?
We’re not entirely sure. At the recent International Leadership Summit we discussed the entry and why several attempts from highly reputable people to change it to something more balanced have been refused. It is odd that something we rely on to look up everyday things and is usually reliable and balanced, would risk it’s own reputation on publishing something so polarised.
Our best guess is that the writer has had a particularly bad experience of learning NLP (or someone close to them has, sadly there are people out there not training it ethically and with integrity) or is reacting to a somewhat evangelistic magical view of NLP which exists in some forms of trainings where the science and background is not taught adequately.
Some really reputable people in the NLP world in the US have put together a counter entry http://nlpwiki.org/wiki so we’d suggest to read both versions and make up your own mind.
Where can I get a taste for NLP before committing to a course?
The London NLP Conference is a great way to get a taste for what learning NLP can do and to try out the top NLP Trainers in the world. This will help you to see who has a style that works for you or an area of specialism that interests you. Karen & John have presented at the conference for the last six years. You can find out more from http://www.nlpconference.co.uk
I’ve heard NLP described as manipulative. Is that true?
The tools and techniques of NLP can be basically put into three elements:
- Learn to be an expert communicator.
- Learn techniques for change work (used in Coaching, Mentoring and Therapy).
- Learn models and concepts to help with strategy (life or business).
Key to success in any of these is the first one, to be an expert communicator. The communication processes, linguistics and emphasis on responding to non verbal cues in other people is a very powerful element of NLP. Most of us learn to communicate by accident so learning how to understand how other people think and to make sure your communication is received as you intend it to is empowering and life changing. Most people use this for good, to support others, communicate more clearly and become more assertive and influence others respectfully.
As with any powerful process though, it can be used in a negative way and sadly there are some people out there teaching NLP to help you pick up women, get your own way and walk al over other people. No reputable NLP Trainer would ever teach these skills with a harmful intention, one of the presuppositions of NLP is to respect other people. So where people are not using their skills for good it is either because they had a harmful intention in learning it in the first place or they were poorly trained.
If you have had this experience or know of a trainer who is not training professionally, please report them to their awarding body or raise it with us and we will raise it at the next UK or International Leadership Summit.